Consider reading the internal node pointer instead of the actual pointer
when trying to figure out whether a node needs to be destroyed. This
preserves the non-atomiticity of the actual pointer which highlights
races using TSAN while fixing destruction.

Bug: chromium:1239081
Change-Id: I1d1fa29d40d86e4b156269abc90142ee71a8d8f4
Reviewed-on: https://chromium-review.googlesource.com/c/v8/v8/+/3110199
Commit-Queue: Michael Lippautz <mlippautz@chromium.org>
Reviewed-by: Omer Katz <omerkatz@chromium.org>
Cr-Commit-Position: refs/heads/main@{#76415}