This is a reland of 80f06d6f

Original change's description:
> [wasm] Lazy update instances on a shared Memory.Grow
> 
>  - Introduce a GROW_SHARED_MEMORY interrupt, and handler
>  - Memory objects for isolates are updated on a stack check, add
>    tracking for isolates that hit the stack check
>  - When enough memory is not reserved ahead of time, fail to grow
>  - Add tracking for externalized buffers in the MemoryTracker so
>    that the MemoryTracker will know when backing_stores can be freed.
>  - For shared buffer, do not always allocate a new buffer when
>    growing an externalized buffer
> 
> 
> Change-Id: I9cf1be19f2f165fa6ea4096869f7d6365304c8c4
> Bug: v8:8564
> Reviewed-on: https://chromium-review.googlesource.com/c/v8/v8/+/1472430
> Commit-Queue: Deepti Gandluri <gdeepti@chromium.org>
> Reviewed-by: Ben Smith <binji@chromium.org>
> Reviewed-by: Andreas Haas <ahaas@chromium.org>
> Cr-Commit-Position: refs/heads/master@{#60064}

Bug: v8:8564
Change-Id: Id0cf8e42a9d54ac702dba351e248a1b92713c98a
Reviewed-on: https://chromium-review.googlesource.com/c/v8/v8/+/1506357Reviewed-by: Bill Budge <bbudge@chromium.org>
Commit-Queue: Deepti Gandluri <gdeepti@chromium.org>
Cr-Commit-Position: refs/heads/master@{#60071}