Adds check for
- same heap on assignment
- header and containment

The verification state is eagerly created for on-heap Member
references using caged heap and lazily created on first assignment for
all others.

Bug: chromium:1056170
Change-Id: I38ee18eeb7ac489f69a46670cc5e5abe07f62dfa
Reviewed-on: https://chromium-review.googlesource.com/c/v8/v8/+/2878745Reviewed-by: Omer Katz <omerkatz@chromium.org>
Commit-Queue: Michael Lippautz <mlippautz@chromium.org>
Cr-Commit-Position: refs/heads/master@{#74449}